The 2 Most Expressed Emotions for Men

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Any idea what they are?

In many conversations with men expressions of frustration and anger are first responses to a myriad of challenges and personal issues.

Question – How are you feeling about….?

Answer – “frustrated’

Question – How are you feeling about….?

Answer – “angry”

Question – How are you feeling about….?

Answer – ‘frustrated and angry”

Men experience the full gamut of life’s ups and downs. 

From recent conversations men have talked about: 

  • Losing a parent
  • A rude boss
  • Tiredness
  • Caring for elderly parents
  • Ongoing physical Injury
  • Recurring physical illness Diagnosis of Mental illness
  • Discovering an affair
  • Having to sack a staff member
  • Parenting stress
  • Managing divorce and separation Negotiating access to kids
  • A bully at work
  • Frequent relationship conflict Loss of intimacy
  • Struggling with fatherhood
  • Unrealistic demands at work
  • Stressful commute to work
  • Missing out on a promotion
  • Driving in traffic
  • No Time for self
  • Infidelity and betrayal
  • Financial problems
  • Lack of confidence

Does ‘frustration’ and ‘anger’ alone sum up the full extent of experience with these significant problems? 


However, most often it’s only half the emotional story!

When it comes to working through our personal difficulties if we are only expressing ourselves with frustration or anger we remain a tad unresolved! 

Why is that?

Frustration or anger are rarely enough to soothe our pain. 

Our emotional repertoire may need expanding.

There are usually other feelings that accompany frustration and anger. They bubble away under the surface hidden from view. 

If we are need healthier self soothing these underlying feelings need more attention. 

Recognising feelings behind frustration and anger can help us heal  our wounds. There are many feelings underneath. 

Below are a few possibilities.

This list may seem a tad daunting. Notice how many emotion words there are!

What’s underneath your frustration or anger?

Next time you’re feeling frustrated or angry check in with what else is going on underneath.


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